Content

Introduction
3 rules of reaching your goals
Rule 1A: Write down your AIMS and habits
Rule 1B Write down your aims and HABITS.
Rule 2: Click the completion of your habits.
Rule 3: Find the support somebody you know.
Advice 1: Start immediately.
Advice 2: Understand your opponents in the game “WORKING ON YOURSELF.”
Advice 3: Understand when you need your mentor’s support.
Advice 4: Use the 24-hour strategy.
Advice 5: Respect yourself.
Advice 6 Become the mentor yourself.
Few words about us

Introduction

Website is called MyHabits.net – our habits that are accordant to our plans (On Target) – and it is a tool to help you in achieving it. For example, your goal is to have healthy and flexible backs and tendons, so your habit is to stretch every morning:)

We ourselves used different kinds of calendars and schedules before reaching the condition we are proposing you. Our help were two sentences you have already read: COMPARE THE NEXT DAY TO THE PREVIOUS ONE and see if there appeared any improvement between them. COMPARE THE NEXT WEEK TO THE PREVIOUS ONE… and see if the man is improved in the present week.

The author of these words, Saint Ignatius of Loyola, wrote them 450 years ago in his book Spiritual Exercises, which is still very popular, and there is no managerial or motivational courses that have more attendants than Spiritual Exercises.

3 rules of reaching your goals

We are different and have our own means of learning and introducing changes. However, those three rules are so simple, universal and practical, that we believe, despite our multiplicity, they may be helpful also for you. MyHabits.net is the action – the prepared tool, not only talking – another hints. The most important are three rules, that helped us and other people.

Rule no. 1: Write down your aims and habits.

Rule no. 2: Mark the completion of your habits.

Rule no. 3: Find the support of somebody you know.

Rule 1A: Write down your AIMS and habits

WRITING DOWN THE AIMS IS THE BEST WAY to start the activities to complete them. It will help you to show yourself, what you want to do in life and how. MOVE YOUR IMAGINATION and imagine you and time in which you achieved your goal.

Let your connotation be PLEASANT AND POSITIVE. And such a positive connotation will help you achieve your aim on condition that they are not the attempt to escape from something, e.g., a negative habit of smoking, but are the way to achieve something else, e.g. healthy lungs, better condition and healthy lifestyle.

The benefits from achieving such goal are clear and pleasant for you. Try to have a substantial aim, measurable, as much as possible, achievable, real and set in time, namely, to have is SMART.

Rule 1B: Write down your aims and HABITS.

WHAT HABITS LEAD TO YOUR GOAL? What is a habit? – The path of your demeanor, written in your mind. Most of the time we spend acting routinely. For example, the routine of getting up and going out of the house. Starting and finishing your workday, lessons, training, suppers, driving the car, meeting friends, washing oneself, going to sleep.

Scientists confirmed that our old habits remain forever. The truth is that we cover old habits with the new ones and we want to make the new habits stronger.

THE AIM AND THE HABIT CREATE A COUPLE. Remind yourself your positive thoughts. If you find inside your heart the idea is too difficult or not funny enough, you may find some thoughts about resignation.

Confirming your habit on MyHabits.net, you MAKE AN AGREEMENT WITH YOURSELF. By placing your signature you create a challenge. You ENTER THE GAME. Why the game? Because the game is the competition, and there will be many competitors wanting to disturb you in achieving your goals and completing your habits.

MyHabits.net gives you the chance to choose HOW MANY TIMES IN THE WEEK you want to realize the given habit. Why the week? Go back to Ignatius of Loyola. Besides, THE WEEK GIVES A RHYTHM to our activities, it makes introducing the new habit easier. Additionally, it is easy to estimate whether you completed your habit often enough.

Rule 2: Click the completion of your habits.

YOU GET WHAT YOU MEASURE, you will never get what you do not measure and estimate. This is the basic idea of MyHabits.net – measure, register to receive. You have the aims and habits. O.K., but you have to know whether you achieved what you have promised.

Saint Ignatius of Loyola wrote that we should compare two days to each other, and two weeks. It is the source of the direction to CLICK THE COMPLETION OF YOUR HABITS EVERYDAY. It is worth while to enter MyHabits.net everyday – a short thought will help you understand why you did not achieve something, and why you managed the other day (such an analysis to understand the opponents of your habits). If you do it together with the self-examination, it will occur that you not only achieve your goals, but also enrich your spiritual life.

MyHabits.net began from such a simple thing as a SHEET OF PAPER IN THE KITCHEN stuck to the wall, but developing our (or St. Ignatius) idea we have sticked to these 3 rules: put down, mark completion, have support. Now it is something more than just a memory paper. Every week you WILL RECEIVE AN EMAIL on your mailbox containing information about completing your habits and frequency of your log-ins, so we will remind you the habit of clicking.

Rule 3: Find the support somebody you know.

Many of us are more motivated by an external obligation or the deadline than we can even promise. That is why it is worth while to ANNOUNCE your obligation PUBLICLY. Tell your friends what you are going to do.

Share your thoughts especially with the person whose name and email you provide in MyHabits.net next to your decision. THIS PERSON WILL BECOME YOUR MENTOR and treat them this way. First of all, they are witnesses of your obligation, secondly – your support that will REMIND YOU AND HELP WHEN NECESSARY.

The way you cooperate with your mentor may, of course, change depending on your experience in building new habits and necessities. YOU NEED THE SUPPORT OF A LIVING MAN who you know and who knows you.

Advice 1: Start immediately.

Most of us are masters in postponing. The so-called STUDENT’S SYNDROME works here. One of its symptoms is waiting for the best moment rather than start immediately. Reasons for waiting: the new year, birthday, the beginning of the month, the end of your exams, your child going to school, paying off the car. Waiting for that moment means postponing and your loss. Then you will try to justify the lost time and substantiate that you had to start this way. Nothing more wrong. START IMMEDIATELY.

Advice 2: Understand your opponents in the game “WORKING ON YOURSELF.”

EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN WAY of achieving their goal and working on themselves and their habits. However, we may always come across some obstacles that are natural and common. It is worth while to get to know them so by learning on others’ experience, YOU WILL NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES. We call those obstacles opponents, because we treat working on ourselves as a game.

You want to achieve TOO MANY THINGS AT ONCE. The time and effort connected with new habits will surcharge you. Start gently with 2-3 obligations. A piece for your body, a piece for your mind, however, be consistent and add a new habit from time to time.

THE HABIT IS NOT THE JUSTIFICATION ITSELF that you cannot fulfill it. For example, you do some exercises in the morning; today you did not managed to do it, so you explain yourself that the morning has passed and you cannot exercise in the evening. Actually, evening exercises are the emergency plan for the basic one.

YOUR COOPERATION WITH YOUR MENTOR IS INSUFFICIENT. Call them yourself. Tell about your thoughts and impression, what you feel concerning completing your work this week. Show your feelings, tell what kind of support you expect.

YOU DO NOT WARN that you are a novice in your new habit in situations which remind your old habit that you want to replace.

YOU SURRENDER TO IMPULSES. You see or hear something that brings your old habit back to your mind, and after a second you do what you used to. For example, you see a box of chocolates, a packet of cigarettes and you immediately take them. If you prolong the time between the impulse and the action., you will manage to think and ask yourself a question: “Will I be happy if I weaken to the impulse and enter the old habit again?” Saint Ignatius of Loyola found the way to prolong the time between the impulse and the action by making a gesture which meaning was known only to him. HE USED TO PUT A PALM ON HIS HEART. That was Ignatius’s way of fighting with sins. However, it is a great way of working on oneself. Another idea may be a note stuck somewhere to remind what you want and what you do not want to do.

YOU DO NOT AVOID PLACES AND SITUATIONS that remind you of the old habit or addiction.

Advice 3: Understand when you need your mentor’s support.

We may say that it is important all the time, but their support is mostly is of vital importance in some situations, which we will try to show you.

YOU STARTED WORKING ON YOURSELF BUT YOU HAVE DOUBTS. You both want and do not want to. You feel something like jitters. In other words, there appears a new habit in your mind that is not exactly and truly yours.

YOU ARE WORKING ON YOURSELF BUT YOU DO NOT SEE MANY EFFECTS. The goal is very distant all the time or not achieved as much as you imagined. Dreams differ from the reality.

MOMENTARY DEFEAT BLOCKS YOUR WORK ON YOURSELF. You are ashamed of going back to the habits as soon as possible. Maybe it is your pride or pursuance to perfection that cannot let you accept the fact that making mistakes is something natural. Go back to the good habit – the sooner the better. Past is gone and you cannot change it.

EVERYTHING GOES FINE – share your positive thoughts, and your mentor will remind you your success and feeling of victory in the moment of doubts and despair.

Advice 4: Use the 24-hour strategy.

Do you know how to eat an elephant? Piece by piece. The same you can do while building your new habit. You cannot do it at once. You want to have a habit, but on the other hand, YOU STILL THINK ABOUT YEARS of jogging, eating no sweets and it terrifies you. Shorten this time to the nearest 24 hours and you will find that there is no longer any problem in jogging or not eating. Think of your HABITS FOR THE NEXT DAY when you go to sleep or in the morning before you get up. What has passed will not come back.

Advice 5: Respect yourself.

First of all, RESPECT YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU DO while working on yourself. You took the risk, the risk of defeat. YOU SHOWED YOUR COURAGE. Use the same bravery in taking the risk after the defeat. Your courage will be an advantage for you if you apologize yourself for not keeping your own word. See the defeat as something constructive, analytical – how it was possible for your opponent (situation, set of actions, place, circumstances) to win over you. Remind yourself all the situations in which you won.